Well, pretty much what i learnt this year, so here goes (its long) and thats what she said! But it is quite brief :)
and gets shorter and shorter cause i cbb LOL.
Lesson 1: People can change rapidly within one year
I guess this is something I learnt quite early... constantly as we live our lifes, we slowly change and this may happen without us even realizing. I learnt that from both myself and my friends and just in people that i had known of. For example; i remember there was an individual, that i used to think was just not that great; they bitch about people, they are a hypocrite and they generally act like their the shit. But as time passed, i realized that they changed for the better; and of course, everyone is bound to do this, but by reducing it, you naturally become a much better person.
For me, i know that this year has been like a roller-coaster; it had many ups and downs, and i have been told that i have changed along with it. Like i was told that i was a great person in the beginning of the year, but little things that have built up through relationships caused me to change to the worse; i start hating, i start talking bad about people and just judge too much ; exactly what i didnt want to become; ie a hypocrite But luckily, i learnt my lesson in time, and i guess its changed me back to how i was before; and hopefully continues to change me back into a much better person.
Lesson 2 : Everyone has different morals/priorities.
This was something that i guess everyone knows, but i guess in times for me, it is hard for me to keep in mind, as everyone was grown up alot differently. I guess a simple and easy example is that personally for me; i would generally put friends>
On the other hand, i know many people that would put a girlfriend or family, WAY over anything else, and of course, i guess that they will have their own reasons as well. But i guess the most important thing that i learnt is that, we should never give up EVERYTHING for just one person/thing. Although i cant say this, as i do it as well, I guess i am trying to make everyone as equal as possible between friends-family and relationships.
Lesson 3: Be Honest
This one is short and simple; just be honest whenever. Its always the best, and results in problems being fixed much quicker than if you were gonna take a spin first. I guess i learnt this through the tough way, where me and some mates just never actually told how we thought, which caused many problems to arise from one small little thing.
And, dont be a fucking bitch and lie. Honestly, yes everyone has their secrets, but one day, you'll realize that although you had your own reasons for not telling, many people will lose their faith in you; and this will make you lose friends. If you are saying someone is being awkward, make sure you arent the one that is awkward. Dont give bullshit.
And dont be a hypocrite; honestly. Dont complain about someone swearing so much if you swear yourself. If you are stingy, dont expect people to always pay for you. Remember, karma lol. what goes around, comes around. (sorry, had to get this somewhere LOL )
Lesson 4: You will be used
Simple, sorry, dont wanna talk about this one lol.
Lesson 5: Appreciate the things you have, and dont regret over stuff you have done.
The things that you have done; made you who you are right now. If something was to change, you dont know how it could have affected other people; its a domino effect. I learnt this; that dont waste time over the past cause no matter how sad you are, the past cannot change.
Just appreciate all the things you have, the friends; the family. Honestly, i learnt this through the hard way, by arguing all the time with a friend i had at church. Until the last day he left, i didnt know how much of a good friend he actually was, and how much he had changed me to a better person. And from this i guess, learn how to say thank you; you dont know how much it really means to a person until you say it.
Lesson 6: We should share happiness :)
This sounds so cheesy, but hoenstly. Learnt this in english broooo, but yeah haha. Like honestly, whats the point of being so stingy with your money, if you are going to make everyone around you feel like crap. Think about it, a smile goes around, so even just shouting dinner ; a simple act of kindness can make someones day which may actually change them.
Listen to other people as well, as well as giving good feedback. Honestly, i guess this is the most important thing that i have learnt, dont just agree with them if they are angry, but give reasons why not to as well; but remember this must be outside of the circle, or else it'll just be something someone has repeated like 1000x.
Lesson 7: Dont lose faith
I guess for me this is the hardest. Not just in God, but in other people as well. You will be filled with doubt, and sometimes i guess you'll just ask yourself, why does this even have to happen to me. But everything happens for a reason right? Dont give up, and keep your head high and smile.
Everything happens for a reason.
Anyways, i cbb writing anymore, i have more but seriously haha.
anyways, all in all, happy new year, and honestly, enjoy your life ;)
stay safe gois.
